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5 Ways to Stay Optimistic in Pessimistic Situations

Life is a roller coaster ride and it’s obvious that every path is not smooth.

Negative situations can come in any form and predicting their nature is impossible. However, we can train our mind to face such situations. We can prepare ourselves to combat a catastrophe or crisis in a pattern.

Now, for instance, you have spent hours and hours of hard work on designing an advertising campaign and the client rejects it. Moreover, while rejecting it the client criticizes you and your working style. In such situations, staying calm and positive is difficult, we all know it, but the situation gets worse if you utter something bad to defend yourself.

Staying calm and composed is vital.

Staying calm and swallowing the criticism retains the client for you, but showcasing anger causes you to lose the deal and the client forever. Therefore, it is very important to stay assertive though it is difficult because that is the way it’s always done, professionally.

Negative situations trigger your natural anger instincts and if you do not train your mind, you never know when your inner HULK may come out. 🧟‍♂️ Your negative reactions make conditions worse and you land up in a bigger mess filled up with only disappointments.

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Here are 5 golden rules to stay optimistic in a pessimistic situation:

The ultimate way to overpower a negative situation is by maintaining a positive attitude. Yes, it is not easy and it requires hard training, but it is achievable. Initially, you may not attain success but with practice and training, it is possible.

Rule #1 – Control Your Reaction.

If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all – recollect this rule always in every negative situation. It will surely help you stay calm and encourage you to give an organized reaction. Still, if it seems uncontrollable then you can inhale and excel in a series till you manage to control your anger. Or you can count numbers in reverse order from 20 to stay calm. Some people laugh out loud to relax the situation. This technique helps to calm down the other person as well.

Rule #2 – Learn From All Your Pessimist Circumstances.

Every negative circumstance is an opportunity to learn and grow at your level. The great Albert Einstein once said, “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” Therefore do not channelize your energy in giving a negative response but in fact, try to do or say something positive indeed. It will relax the situation and will not make it worse.

Still, if you do react inappropriately then always make a note of it and the situation that caused it. This technique will assist you in identifying the triggers, so in the future, you can either avoid them or give a preplanned positive reaction. In short, let yourself control the trigger situations rather than allowing situations to control your actions.

Rule #3 – If you have committed a mistake, accept it.

Being a human we all commit mistakes but only a few dares to admit it. It saves time and helps you to learn and move on quickly.

Rule #4 – Maintain an optimistic attitude.

Don’t allow anyone’s opinion to be your opinion. Make your own opinions through your personal experience whether it’s about a person or a product or any other thing. In short, do not jump to conclusions before analyzing the situation. Learn to keep your mind broad and positive always. For instance, because of common opinion, you label a person creating a negative mindset towards that person and hence working along becomes difficult. If you keep a broad mind and positive attitude by giving that particular person a chance then the stigma attached gets diluted and working along gets easy.

Rule #5 – Accentuate The Positive.

The final rule is based on the song ‘Accentuate the Positive’ written by Harold Arlen and lyrics by Johnny Mercer. It motivates and explains the importance of staying positive. The lyrics say that:

  • You’ve got to accentuate the positive
  • Eliminate the negative
  • And latch on to the affirmative
  • Don’t mess with Mister In-Between
  • Words of wisdom from this beautiful melody,
  • Highlight your optimistic approach through your actions and words.
  • Get rid of any pessimistic thoughts caused by a negative situation as soon as possible.
  • Stick to affirmative thoughts only.

So, don’t confuse between positive and negative thoughts, it messes up with our mental health. Differentiate. Try to just overthrow negative thoughts and stick only to positivity and good vibes. 🌞

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Mr. Nitin Shende is a Subject matter expert in Project Management with more than 31 years of global experience. He is a member of Standard & PMBOK guide Sixth edition content and SME member for PMBOK guide Fifth edition.